Many birth moms ask how they should explain to their other children that the baby they are pregnant with is being placed for adoption? Our Adoption Coordinator has answered this question.

It can be difficult for a birth mother to answer that question. I recommend being as truthful as possible while keeping your response age appropriate. I believe children are looking for simple answers and the reassurance that you, as their mother, are okay with this plan and that nothing in their world will change.

In so many of the adoptions we see, the adoptive parents and birth parents come to agree on a significant degree of openness after placement. Some birth moms have chosen to tell their children that they are placing this baby with a family that cannot have children. It can also be helpful to involve the child in the adoption plan and perhaps giving him or her the chance to meet the adoptive family. Others have reassured their children by telling them that they will receive pictures and updates after the child is placed with the family. Allowing the child to send a special gift home with the child being placed for adoption can make them feel included in the process.

Also depending on the degree of openness in the adoption, some families agree to visits and other forms of communication like Skype and Face time. A mother knows her child best so she will know what the best way would be to answer her child’s questions about adoption.